It’s my job as a mom to teach my kids how to be productive, diligent, and have hearts that aim to serve others before themselves. They need to be prepared and ready for the world when the time comes and my husband and I aim to equip them one day at a time, one lesson at a time, and one hug and pat on the back a time. I will say that it’s a huge process that does not happen overnight! I am the first to admit that I have lost my patience in my heart more times than one when facing a 5-year-old with a bad attitude or a lazy 10-year-old that leaves her junk scattered all over the place. Teaching my children how to change their heart attitude has been a personal growing experience for myself, as God gently shows me the issues in my own heart that need pruning.
Over the last 11 years of being a mom, I have learned that patient encouragement goes a long way. Explaining the heart behind WHY we all help in our family and why we take care of our space to be good stewards of what we’ve been given is important. Here are some tips that have helped me manage my busy home and ways the kids help in our home:
A very wise woman that successfully raised nine children once told me her story of how she flopped herself down on the couch one day, exhausted after mothering her then four children. She said that she needed to change something in her home. She was led to this book .
I don’t want my children to grow up with an entitled attitude or a heart that is ruled by instant gratification and pleasure. Starting with honestly examining our own hearts, and then helping our children to be servants of others will bring more fulfillment and positive change in our world.
Determined. That is my word for 2018. My Norwex business has taught me how powerful it is to focus on an outcome that you want and the power of positive mindset. When I first began my Norwex journey, I was weighed down with thoughts of:
“Hearing people say “no” is scary and it means that they don’t like me”
“It’s going to be many many years before you get out of living paycheck to paycheck”.
“Your farming dream will never happen. It’s too expensive and if you DO get land, your desires will have to be limited”.
“I hate sales”.
“Parties are lame and booking them would be hard”.
“You can’t be a good mom AND have a thriving business at the same time”.
You get the picture. One by one, my limiting beliefs were chipped away. Just yesterday another one surfaced that I had to replace with a true one (“you can’t homeschool 6 kids and promote to the top of the company, impossible” was thrown into the gutter and replaced with “I can continue to impact more lives with reducing chemicals while involving my kids and teaching them why we don’t use chemicals and how to share this mission along with me”).
I love January because it’s a time to focus on new beginnings. If I have no parties on my calendar, I can be determined to book some. If I want to play more boardgames with my kids, I can be determined to set time aside to play some. If I want to save money for a new van, I can be determined to put my pennies aside.
I want to be determined to use everyday like it’s my last. To sit and be still. To spend focused time with each child. To serve my husband without expecting anything in return. To help my Norwex team achieve their dreams and goals. To have 120 Norwex parties and help create 600 safe havens. To loose baby weight and become strong again….
What is your word for 2018?
Some people (sometimes I would think most people in our society but I want to stay real and as positive as possible here) think that it’s irresponsible to have many children. I do understand the mindset behind this…”we are in an over population crisis! People are starving all over the world!…People use and wast so much energy in our country…There are landfills popping up everywhere..” and on and on it goes. I’m not saying these points are not valid, they certainly are! However I do not believe that the solution to these problems is making sure our communities have 1.5 children. I personally have seen landfills grow and even took a class in engineering school to learn how to design one to fill MORE garbage. I personally had a grandfather that said the meanest things about me wanting a large family. But here’s the thing, there is power in patiently educating without shoving points down people’s throats.
I do believe that we need to do better. Better in taking care of what has been given to us and being grateful for this earth that we live on. We need to show our kids that these are gifts given to us and to be good stewards of them. What will happen if I shove my believes into them without patiently teaching the HEART of the issue? They’ll flee from it all.
There are so many things that I am personally learning and I’m seeing how much grace I need in this as well. (Like when I’m just too lazy to rinse out the 12th yogurt container so that it can be recycled).
One thing I want to talk about today is instilling responsibility in my kids and teaching them that they need to take part in helping diligently and cheerfully. If I do everything for them, they will grow up believing that things should come to them on a silver platter. First they learn at home so that they can go out in society and apply it there.
Every morning my children are expected to do two chores laid out for them. We have a chore chart on the refrigerator that changes every season. I’m not saying that this is easy. Goodness there are many mornings that I want to run far far away from teaching this chore thing!
Along with these chores, my kids are learning about healthy living and how we keep our home safe from chemicals. They are able to do just about every task because we use Norwex and I don’t need to worry about toxic junk getting on their hands or being consumed.
Using Norwex in my home has effected my kids in ways that I don’t always realize. The other day I was trying to get some supplies together to do a craft with the kids. When I asked them if we had any paper towels, my 5 yr old responded by saying “what on earth is a paper towel??! It sounds like a towel made out of paper and that’s weird”. These simple things can have huge impacts for our world and communities. We can all take part in educating in some way!
We are already on round five with the potty training process! My husband came up with an idea to train our kids from kid #1 that has worked every.single.time. Every child is different mind you, but this lovely method has worked for all of them and it really isn’t that complicated.
We start by going to the chocolate store in Richmond, VA (called “for the love of chocolate”) and buying $30 worth of eye catching animal chocolates for the kid’s #2 reward and some Jelly Belly beans for the kid’s #1 reward. A little potty is set up in a good central location and the treats are dangled in a good place for all to see.
When ready to begin, the kid is encouraged to sit on their little potty to become comfortable with it. Then they will run around for the next few days without a diaper, pants or underwear. This is important because it gives the child the realization as to what is happening when they need to pee or poop. Of course there will be some accidents! That’s why my Enviro Cloth is always handy! (it’s nice to have one Enviro Cloth designated just for the nastiest messes).
When they pee, a jelly bean is given. When they poop, they get to pick out a fancy animal chocolate from the hanging display. See?! Simple! Wish us luck as we embark on round #5 this weekend!Pin It
Norwex came out with this brilliant product in August and I can say with conviction that it has improved my husband and my sanity in our household ever since we began hanging it from our oven door. It’s important to have something to dry your hands on in the kitchen. It’s even more important to have something to dry your hands on that isn’t chocked full of bacteria. This towel has Norwex’s BacLock silver agent in the fibers, inhibiting bacterial growth within the towel and allowing us to hang it for weeks before throwing it in the laundry.
I used to use Norwex’s Kitchen Towel for this purpose. But if you have kids, you and I both know how often towels end up on the floor! ahhh!! Norwex has outsmarted kids everywhere with this design. The Chenille Hand Towel is designed to hang from a bar, towel rack, etc. without being pulled off!
Ditch all the hand towels that you have billowing out of that drawer in your kitchen (you know what I’m talking about) and simplify things by having one of these in your kitchen. It’s a must.Pin It